In a world full of technology, handwriting still holds the most power.
Many years ago my grandmother moved from the home she had lived in for most of her life to a smaller apartment in a retirement community. A few weeks later a large box arrived at my house. Our postal carrier delivered a brown cardboard package that held every letter I had ever written to her. They spanned a forty year period. I sat with each letter, note, and photograph I had sent and marveled.
My entire life was there in that box- from the earliest scribbling to my ramblings about being a mom with two children in middle school. My own handwriting told my complete story and these pieces of paper are one of the most precious gifts I have ever received.
The arrival of that box all those years got me thinking- what happened to the handwritten word?
Have we (almost) completely erased the loopy cursive of grandma’s recipe card with an online program that stores our recipes? Have our mailboxes really evolved to only contain unwanted bills, solicitation letter, and junk mail with only a few intermittent birthday cards, birth and graduation announcements? Is it true that most of the younger generation has no idea how to write or read cursive?
I wondered if we needed a revival. So I started a little experiment last fall. I wrote a note every day for an entire month. A “thank you” to our youth pastor, a note of encouragement to a friend, a letter of gratitude to a colleague or mentor. As the days stretched on I could always brainstorm just one more person who could be blessed by an old-fashioned letter, sent snail mail. And I realized something. Taking the time to buy stationary, find a stamp, look up an address, and hand write a note blessed ME just as much as it did the recipients. I received messages and letters back. My phone rang more. I felt more connected to people I had lost touch with or had never acknowledged their importance in my life. Business colleagues showed me that they had saved their note, pinned to a bulletin board just like we save the Christmas ornament that was shaped of macaroni and spray painted gold, a relic from our children’s preschool days.
And so today I issued a challenge. Could we collectively bring back handwritten words? Could we use pen and ink and have patience and intention as in the days before texting, Tweeting, and Facebook Messenger?
I’m up for this challenge and I am inviting you to join me. Every Thursday I will be posting just one prompt. One way we can use handwritten words to bless others, and ourselves. If you are inclined to share your journey on social media, just post a photo and use #InkWELLMovement I’d love to see how your words are impacting the world. You can watch the LIVE Facebook video below for more:
This week’s prompt is simply to write one thank you note. Think outside the box. Send it to someone unexpected, who may have no idea the impact they’ve had in your life. We can use our pens for power. Then use #InkWELLMovement if you post about it online. I’d love to connect with you!
Amy Breitmann is an author, speaker, and entrepreneur. She is the owner of Blue Jean Communications, specializing in strategy and storytelling for brands and businesses. Subscribe to her email list HERE.
Two weeks ago my daughter’s boyfriend bought her a Kate Spade wallet in NYC. We had wandered around touching all the pretty things, basking in the happy glow that surrounds Kate Spade stores. I had texted my friend Tracy a picture of the flagship store in NYC because I knew of her passion for bows and all things Kate.
Although Kate had sold her brand to Neiman Marcus in 2006 (the brand has had several owners since) and was currently working on building other brands, she remained the iconic founder and figure behind the beloved brand.
I read just today that the last marketing campaign launched by the Kate Spade brand before her death was called “Where’s Kate?” All videos have been pulled from the internet for obvious reasons, but the eerieness of it remains. Apparently it included an actress portraying Kate herself trying to be found by a detective.
Let that sink in.
The questions that we have all been collectively asking since Tuesday when we learned that she hung herself with a red scarf in her gorgeous NYC apartment are all a form of:
Where was Kate, really?
Where were her friends?
Where were the meds?
And we ask WHY:
Why didn’t she call someone?
Why didn’t we know about her private struggle?
Why didn’t someone see signs?
A couple of days later we found ourselves asking the same questions about Anthony Bourdine.
The real question we need to be asking is:
Why don’t we talk about mental illness like we talk about cancer, diabetes and heart disease?
And also, we might want to refer to the fact that there are some questions that will never ever be answered in this lifetime.
I am familiar with the wrong questions. When I was diagnosed with ovarian cancer at the age of 29 I got doozies like these: “Were you a heavy smoker?” “Do you have a history of cancer in your family?” “Didn’t you FEEL something or have symptoms before that grapefruit-sized tumor was removed?”
No. No. No.
Rumors flew as far as Texas that the cancer had moved to my brain, that I was dying and would leave my daughter orphaned.
People will talk. And they will scrutinize. Especially when things are hard to believe and come seemingly out of nowhere. It’s how we distance ourselves. It’s how we swallow the belief that “it could never happen to me or someone I love.” So we stand at a distance and calculate the many clues to its happening and the ways OTHERS could have prevented it.
I’m not sure what we’ve done with the disease of mental illness. We all seem to have a retrospective opinion when the monster called depression takes one of our own: Robin Williams, Kate Spade, a friend’s son. We want answers to impossible questions. We want a finger to point. We want an explanation, a reason. A way that we could have prevented it, single-handedly and collectively.
It has got to be excruciatingly painful for those close to Kate and anyone who has been lost to suicide and depression. The way we want to make sense of it. The way we flounder with our questions and our near accusations. How we put hotlines and solutions up online. As if we can solve this.
Don’t you think they are asking all the same questions?
I’m not implying we don’t offer help and resources and medications and ALL the things. Not just during a storm of awareness that celebrity deaths bring. But maybe these spotlight cases of what happens daily can bring us together to mourn a little bit together. Can we hold out a hand?
Cancer is a disease too and it has very few rules that it follows. Just today I ran into an old friend at lunch who is one of the lead cancer researchers in the world. She spends every day all day trying to figure this thing out.
I have know women who were diagnosed on Friday and died on the following Tuesday. Or those with cancer who sought all the treatments: the chemo, the homeopathic ways, yoga, wheatgrass, the clinical trials. And still they lost the earthly battle. Sometimes after years of public battles, but often in silent, steady ways that even those closest to them never knew. I used to hear from these women at the ministry I co-founded. I became the “stranger on the airplane,” the ones women struggling with cancer could trust with all their insecurities. They would share the fears that would never be uttered to their spouses or children.
They suffered in literal silence while every resource surrounded them.
I had fought a similar, silent, deadly monster. And I know it could return. It’s a precarious place to live.
Monsters like cancer and mental illness can strike silent and deadly at any time. It’s time we call it what it is: a disease. Dis ease. Lack of ease. There is no easy treatment, cure, answer, prevention.
Can we do things that help? Yes.
Do we have guarantees that it will not kill us? No.
If someone with epilepsy has a seizure and loses consciousness in a matter of minutes then couldn’t it also be true that suicidal episodes are like this? One moment the person is on the phone or laughing, and the next they are gone, eaten by the disease, with no clues at all?
Can we call mental illness what it is? A monster. A liar. Capable of eating up perfectly good (and especially perfectly creative, brilliant, artistant, high-achieving people?)
Can we get mad enough at the DISEASE
Can we have enough dis-ease about this to stop pointing fingers at family members who “must have known” and coworkers “should have said something.”
Because I believe that when those close to the ones we have lost say there was “ no indication in the last few days,” they mean it.
Just like there was no indication that an ovarian tumor the size of a grapefruit was growing on my left ovary.
And don’t think I don’t live in a place where I know it can come back again. It came silently once before. Today, if you didn’t know about that time in my life, you might wonder why a tear streaks down my cheek in the waiting room of the doctor’s office. It’s a routine visit, after all, and needles are only used to draw blood to test my hormone and cholesterol levels. My reaction might make you think that I have too much anxiety. I am being ridiculous. I am overreacting.
You would be wrong. I am reacting to my truth and my pain and my history and my present fears.I know a teeny-tiny bit about how it feels to have history with a disease that threatens to define me. But my scars don’t show on the outside. I can hide them and wear the painful truth on the inside. I can cover it all with clothing and makeup and a smile.
I want to remember what it felt like to be offered platitudes, explanations, theories, and even cold-hard facts during my own season of intense pain.
So I feebly try to do the thing that my best friend did during my horrible bout with cancer.
She didn’t have cancer and she didn’t understand, but she grabbed my hand and she squeezed it hard.
She picked me up in her car and drove me to get my favorite meal. She looked me straight in the eye and didn’t look away or try to manufacture words. She showed me the ministry of presence.
And her presence was the one thing I desperately needed in the midst of the strongest identity crisis and most intense pain of my life.
And so I offer here the ministry of my presence. Maybe we can sit and you could tell me some of the battles, of the loss, the fear, and the stories that have injured you and that make up the patchwork of your life. And maybe I could tell you mine.
You will not try to pick up and walk in my cancer shoes, and I would not try to put on yours.
Dear friend with depressive episodes or anxiety that claws at your life,
I don’t know what darkness you have faced as a little girl or just yesterday. What black hole you felt down deep inside with no way out. But I do know that that pain floods like a dam that has been broken when given the right set of circumstances.
So I quietly acknowledge these recent losses are rightfully painful for you even more so than for me. And I kneel with you and cry at the wreckage.
Of course I want you to know we are here, that someone is always there. And that hotlines exist. I’ll post resources below because they are real with real people and real love behind them.
I offer no words~ only my hand.
I love you. I will not stop showing up, reaching out a hand, telling you over and over that you are loved. I will look straight into the monster’s eyes, sitting next to you. It’s all I know to do.
1 Corinthians 13:12: “For now we see only a reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known.”
P. S. and Resources:
If you are in the dark right now, you can call someone for help: HOTLINE: 1 (800) 273-TALK (8255)
I reached out to a dear friend who I know has had a long battle with depression and bipolor disease. I wanted to better understand.
Here is what she shared with me when I asked what this disease feels like, and what I as a friend can DO for her. (Maybe ask someone in your life?)
“Depression is a chronic and sometimes debilitating dis-ease. We live afraid of ourselves, just like your fear of cancer returning. A depressed person can be okay and then not okay. Suddenly. Without warning. Often others don’t see it coming because WE don’t see it coming. Suicidal ideations are an unpredictable and ravenous beast. And even the meds aren’t always armor enough. In the darkness we will not believe your words. We feel utterly, terrifyingly alone. The people I do get brave enough to reach out to when I think I might be in danger are the people who are here all the time. The people who ask all the time. The people who listen all the time. Who know how to hear the subtle spiraling in my words or my slow isolation or mention of too many naps. And sadly, on the worst days, my brain might even forget them. It won’t always be enough. No matter how much you love us. But love anyway. Risk anyway. On the chance that it will be enough.”
Things you can DO for someone in your life with depression:
Pray with and for her. Plant scripture and truth about who she is.
Buy your friend suffering from depression a package of classes at the swankiest yoga studio (or gym) in town and offer to pick her up and take her.
Buy her a massage, a weighted therapy blanket, or a body brush for dry brushing.
Ask her if she’s having trouble affording her therapist.
Offer to go for a walk.
Ask if she needs physical touch. Hold her hand or stroke her hair or give her a scalp massage.
Ask if you can clean her room. Put fresh sheets on her bed. Make it smell nice. Put out fresh flowers and send her to take a nap. Wake her to a warm meal.
Bring smoothie packs. It’s hard to eat when you’re depressed. Drinkable nutrition helps.
Invite her to your home. She may need a change of scenery but noisy public places can feel terrifying.
I love that my heartbeat was the first one you heard and that my hand the first to hold yours. That God entrusted broken me with you is humbling and overwhelming.When I first became a mother to you I had no idea. About so many things.For starters:I had no idea that you would say some form of “mom” or “mama” or “mommy” a dizzying number of times a day. Every. Day. For. Years. Or that I would follow you around for months on end cleaning up messes. (Eventually I got a clue that “messes” were a stage not to be outgrown. I surrendered and began to make messes WITH you. I love that part. You taught me that messy memories are the best.)
I didn’t know that I would hum the tunes of Disney movies daily. Or that I would pretend I know how to dance with you and your sister in the kitchen. You took my hand and led me to those places and it awakened something in me. Thank you. I had no idea that you, my blue-eyed boy, would humor the young girl in me and find a jacket and a flower and play “wedding.” Your toddler hand would take mine and dance. Your smile reflected that of your father’s and it halted me. Your scraped knees and tree-climbing and endless curiosity exhausted me some days. But I found my true calling in those moments. You led me by the hand to the mission of being a mom.
I had no idea that in 3rd grade, 7 years into our dance, you would flash your toothless grin over your backpack in the hall of that elementary school. And that your doing so would undo me. That I would fight to breathe through tears as I walked to my car, knowing that this was a milestone. One that needed to be fully felt and photographed. And held. The only camera I had was my heart, and so there it has stayed. Frozen in time. Just like the image I hold of those handfuls of flowers you gave me. Over and over, plucked from the backyard. Dandelions and daisies were never so beautiful.
I had no idea that laundry would overtake me. And that I would lose some of myself in it. That some days I would feel like that unmatched sock, wondering where I belonged. Existing between the changing, the feeding, the shopping, the cleaning, the rocking, the bottles and bibs.
You didn’t stay in any of those stages very long. You moved on and I jogged alongside you. I covered myself up in room-mom duties. I researched creative snacks for Valentine’s Day and marked school picture days on my calendar. I sewed Halloween costumes. I re-learned multiplication tables and wandered around school carnivals while you tried to win a fish or a new friend.
I didn’t know that I would see your passions before you did. And that I would push you out of your comfort zone toward them. I often doubted myself, but never you. I had no idea that my brain would fail to work when you were sick or that my heart would ache alongside anything that injured yours. Or that I would Google “how to treat a gecko bite” and other ridiculous scenarios that I had no clue how to handle.
The calendar spins around a few more times. You are a teenager.
Boy of mine? We play tennis. And I remember my Chris Everett racquet and how it felt to hold it in my hand on that court when I was 12. I sit on the edge of your bed as you play guitar and I try to pluck a few insights about your day out of you. I pack lunches. I pack your tennis bag. I make sure you have pants that fit.
And I pack more lunches.
I have laughed with you until my stomach hurt and my eyes watered.
I have cried. A lot. But in your presence I am mostly strong. I try hard to have conviction and answers to questions and snacks when you’re hungry and appointments when you feel sick.I have worried. A lot. But in your presence I am decisive. I calm you and have courage and your favorite dinner when you have a bad day.
I supply a fresh box of Kleenex and we go out for sushi when you are confused.
It’s what I do. It has become who I am. A mom.
And now, you stand in our kitchen before your last day of school as you have a thousand mornings. We measure each other by the fireplace. Suddenly you are taller than me.I only cry after you have swept past me, backpack flung and murmuring ” Don’t forget that I have graduation practice this afternoon.” And finally, through the now-closed door:”Love you mom.”
I stop right here in the kitchen where dirty dishes are piled and remnants of your morning routine surround me. To be thankful.
Because the truth is that at each stage you have blessed me in ways immeasurable. In fistfuls of flowers and doodles and the day-to-day knowing of you. Through your guitar music and all the hours I have sat on bleachers cheering for you. Your crayons and concerts have marked my place in the world.
It’s absurd how much I love you.
I had no idea that my entire world could abandon its axis and jump to revolve around you. And how much of me it would take to do so. And how now, teetering on the edge of you being on your own, I can’t imagine my axis jumping again when you are gone and on your own.
The dance is changing again. I miss the days when the scariest thing we did was climb the tall slide or go to the deep end of the swimming pool. It’s a big, confusing world out there. I want to look into your sweet face of yesterday and say “I’m sorry for disappointing you.” Because I’m not nearly as perfect as you saw me at 4 and 6 years old.
Can I tell you a secret that I tried to keep from you but is the truth? I am riddled with flaws. I stumbled into motherhood with lots of baggage. You have discovered some of this already. You now know that I bake (a lot) when I’m angry or sad. You scatter from the kitchen in self-defense, returning to help me consume the culinary manifestations of my mood. You’ve also surely noticed that I have ADD and at the same time I am a perfectionist. Which means I like things perfect. But not for very long. Ridiculous, I know.
My mother’s prayer today is to be able to point you to the ONE who will always have grace and forgiveness when mine has run dry. To show you how empty we need to be to allow the filling of the Holy Spirit, and to introduce you to the ONE who doesn’t get tired or bitter. To run to our God. Our God who never gets angry, even when you ask what’s for dinner or where you can you find your khaki pants. For the hundredth time. Because the reality of being a good Mom to you? It is a painful and beautiful dance. My job is to encourage you to cling to a loving God who can really CAN patch your scabbed knees and steady you when shaken. The Father who is an incredible dancer and the REAL finder of lost things. And the Book that has all the answers that I don’t.
These truths might be just word arrows now. But I pray they will point you in the right direction.
Anything good I have added to your journey has come from Him, Beloved boy of mine
Thank you for painting my world with finger paints and firefly chases and ferris wheels. And for dancing with me in the kitchen.
The greeting card aisle is going to be packed this week at the grocery store- dozen of folks swarmed around to find just the right words to stick in an envelope. It’s coming Sunday: Mother’s Day. This is the day we set aside to celebrate moms and all they mean to us. Seventy-five percent of all the flower sales in the U.S. each year happen THIS weekend. That’s a lot of roses, ya’ll. For many moms and their children this is a beautiful day filled with family and flowers, good food and gifts. We will smile and thank our families and share a meal, and it will be restful. I anticipate it will be that way for me. But this is far from reality for many.
Because sometimes there are no words and no bouquets.
For some Mother’s Day can be a brutal-reminder kind of day. The day that points out to a woman all the holes, the tattered places, the loss. There is a vacant seat at the table, an empty mailbox, or a painful place in our hearts.
Because this broken world can mean wayward children and less-than-perfect relationships. Often there is no card that can be purchased that says just the right thing from a daughter who carries too much pain and distance between herself and her mom. Or Sunday might be a day that a daughter just sits with memories of her mother, lost from this world because of cancer, a lifetime cut way too short.
Or maybe a mother sits surrounded by photographs hung on the walls of her children, her table empty, no visitors to welcome. Maybe she’s lost a child to death or to a prodigal path. Maybe there’s just silence these days. Maybe she has given up that she will ever hug them again.
These are not Hallmark moments.
So to all the moms or daughters who feel a little broken this Mother’s Day… I see you. This Sunday might be a time of mending for you, or it might just be a day to sit with the feelings. I don’t know. I only know that I have a little gift for you, to remind you that regardless of your circumstances, you are beloved.
I created these reminders for myself: 18 scriptures printed on a page that speak truth to me. I framed them, right there here where I can see them daily.
They contain words like:
You are loved. You are beautiful. You are special. You are cared for.
Words from a Father who knew that we would need them. Words just maybe for such a time as this- a day that comes with mixed feelings and lonely places.
So to moms or daughters that find this weekend hard, these are for you. I’d send you roses and daisies from my yard too if I could. You are not alone. You can download this printable HERE.
“Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a great cloud of witnesses, let us throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles. And let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us.” – Hebrews 12:1
If you know me at all you have probably seen pictures of me and my posse. My girlfriends. My GF’s. We have 27 years between us. I have been part of this group for nearly 20. I don’t remember life without them. We will show up in your feed on retreats or arranging flowers for a girlfriend’s second wedding. You’ll know that 7 of the 9 of us have the same ankle tattoo. (Two of us will make this sisterhood symbol with permanent marker when we are in the retirement home…we’ll need to find each other.)
You might think that this whole “finding your tribe thing” is easy. You might think that it’s all brunch and road trips and birthdays.
You would be right. And you would be very wrong.
You might call me lucky But luck has nothing to do with keeping relationships for that amount of time with eight women.
That’s like saying “you’re so lucky you’ve been married for 25 years.”
This gig takes a whole mess of work and humility. If you ever find yourself envious, this is the truth behind our story. This is my version of the disclaimer that should be provided on every long-term relationship of any kind.
Because community is going to cost you.
The truth is that when friendship with a group of women is fresh and new it won’t cost you much. Over coffee you can share fashion finds and recipes, your latest thrift store purchases, family stories, and parenting tips. It’s easy, breezy, beautiful.
But stick around awhile and the casual conversations will wear thin. Facades will fail.
It’ll start small. One of you will have a bad day, a series of bad days, a bump in your marriage, or a full-blown nervous breakdown. Scars will come into focus if you spend enough time together. If you dare to examine each of your sisters and keep showing up for a front row seat to life with another human being, humanness will be exposed. It won’t be pretty. You might consider leaving.
When years spin on the calendar, nearly 20 to be exact, you’ll still realize it’s the most beautiful, hardest thing you will ever be part of.
Over the years you’ll be a witness your sisters at their best. You’ll cry happy tears because one’s daughter is saying her vows surrounded by sprays of flowers. Your mother-of-the-bride girlfriend will walk down the aisle with a knowing glance into the gaggle of you, her body at the perfect weight. She is floating like an angel and you practically gloat at the opportunity to witnesses the glory. You proudly beam at the reception.
The group of you will gather, crowding around a small cafe table and lean in close to hear the latest accomplishment of one of your sisters. You’ll toast your coffee cups and drive home smiling because gosh darn it, one of you did the thing she’s been talking about for a solid four years and it’s the proudest moment deep in your heart to know she is thriving.
You’ll cheer in the audience, one of your sisters at the podium giving her acceptance speech for one award or another, her finally finding her voice.
You’ll rock each other’s babies and then watch each of them grow like a beanstalk until they grow almost out of sight and you don’t see them often enough anymore. Each holds a piece of your heart, frozen in time with one single memory of all of you tending to ALL THOSE KIDS while trying to hold a conversation at a bible study in a messy kitchen.
You’ll buy one of the girlfriends a gift at some random store, giggling, just because it reminds you of her on a Tuesday.
You’ll group text like a teenager and send all the emojis on a heartbreaking day just to make her smile.
You’ll begin to hear all the words, even the ones she never speaks because your hearts begin to know each other.
You’ll see the beauty in her when she squints to see it in herself and you’ll sing the song in her heart back to her when she has forgotten the words.
You’ll laugh at very inappropriate times together. VERY. INAPPROPRIATE. TIMES.
And these times will become your memories and a part of you forever.
Those are the good moments, but a real tribe will cost you.
A circle of real girlfriends will beg you to lay down your pride. They will demand time, patience, and more understanding than your two year old who is yet to be potty-trained. The relationships will beckon you to listen deep and to soften judgement. Your shared love will call you to be vulnerable and transparent. You’ll have to get real up in here if you want to stay.
The truth is that you’ll have to eventually decide if your are a runner or if you are a fighter.
You’ll have to know in the guts of your very self if you can grow in deep commitment. You’ll have to know if you have the strength to to come out of hiding. From yourself and to them.
You will disappoint each other, a lot. You will hurt each other, often unintentionally.
And that’s not any kind of fun.
This past weekend I sat in a circle with my tribe. The ones who have held my hand in scary times, jumped for joy in summer seasons, and slapped me right upside the head when I was way off kilter. I talked about how hiding is the true root of any sin and satan wants nothing more than for us to be divided, alone, and without community. That’s the cold hard truth so I reminded them and myself that we are gonna have to fight.
How easy it would be to overlook each other’s bad habits, the lies we tell ourselves, and to glance away from the gaping holes in each other’s hearts.
Because we have an enemy that knows every sin that hinders us from being all that God created us to be and every tender place.
We’re going to have to be intimate here if we are going to be the body of Christ. And intimacy means “into me see.” We’re going to have to look into each other with eyes and hearts wide open.
We going to have to live with eyes wide open and a great big focus on Jesus.
Satan prowls like a lion in the night searching for an “In” to destroy sisterhood, for a way between us. He knows that we are better together. Isolation and quiet despair are the recipe he concocts to tell us we are unlovable, left out, forgotten.
So if you are in it for the long, ugly, beautiful haul of being in the body of Christ… all in for birthdays and gift-exchanges and toasting sunsets at the beach, you’re going to have to also be willing to surrender to the hard. You’re going to have to show up that one day when you find yourself with your hands on your sister’s feet, sitting cross-legged below her praying bold prayers to heal the broken places in her marriage and/ or whisper “Dear Lord to please tend to the scars she carries from the past.” You will pray for her harder than you pray for your own needs.
Because over time she has become a part of you, a mirror of you.
And you better be able to face a mirror because each woman in that circle of community you joined will hold one up and ask you to look close if they really love you.
And so, yes, I do have eight very close girlfriends. And I signed up for all of that. We each did.
Right in the middle of the retreat, when we had started talking about the broken places, we scrolled our names right across the top of a blank sheet of paper. We taped them towards the light and each of us wrote the words of truth right there under each other’s names in permanent marker.
Because just like Michelangelo, we see beauty in every block of marble. A masterpiece that is waiting to emerge.
And our words to each other begin to bring each other out of hiding.
Yes. Community will cost you.
And it will fill you.
A sisterhood will challenge you.
It will also rock the lies, expose the truth, and make you do the hard work.
Community will ultimately make you come alive, looking to the cross as your only hope.
We’re just here to sing the backup verses to the song He has planted in side of of our sisters, to carry each other’s voices when we have no words. I played this song at the end of my talk Saturday, surrounded by the girls who have helped me find my voice.
If you want to be in a girlfriend tribe you better be willing to sing a strong backup.
I’m so grateful for my dear friend Jennifer Hand of Coming Alive Ministries who led our retreat this weekend and one of the GF’s Renee who spoke and gave us deep questions to ponder with each other. I’m also grateful for the GF’s who took most of the pictures in this post because I took not a one the whole weekend. It takes a village, ya’ll.